Lack of Communication in a Relationship Lack of communication is the root cause for most relationships problems. Communication is the key foundation in a relationship. Without its presence or absence, it affects the physical health. When communication is deprived, we would have no sense of ourselves. Communication enables us to survive and it has a major impact on all relationships. Without communication, a relationship has no chance of surviving its prime.
To make communication work, each partner must be willing to ignore distractions and really focus on the other person. Communicating problems with a spouse, friend or family member is the easiest and most efficient way to keep a long lasting and healthy relationship. In a relationship, communication is based on trust, considering your significant other’s point of view, do not point blame, listening, and taking criticism gracefully. Embracing your significant other’s point of view is a good step towards having a healthy relationship.
Being one-sided will hinder and cause major conflict to the relationship, causing it to be broken. In addition, another problem that arises is accusations being thrown around without knowing really what is true or not, and then it leads to mistrust. Pointing blame in any situation is not healthy in the relationship; if you take time to hear out the other point of view, maybe an agreement could come about to help resolve the issues on mutual terms. In addition, when someone is criticizing you, it is very easy to become defensive.
It is important to listen to what the other person has to say, keep an open mind, and improve on it. Communication is more than spoken words. It is verbal, mental and physical. Most failed relationships are because there was a lack of communication between each partner. Inconsiderateness causes a lack of communication in a relationship, which can result in hasty decisions that can even lead to separation. Relationships are like the weather; sometimes warm and fair, whereas others are stormy and cold.
Ever since the war in Iraq and Afghanistan has begun, I have few friends lost their marriages and relationships because of the distance, infidelity, anger, lack of communication and money. Disagreements due to a lack of communication can often lead into arguments and not being able to communicate can cause financial problems. When one spouse makes all the financial decisions and the other spouse does not agree with the decisions, then conflicts arise between the two of them. Over-spending of money by either spouse can put a burden on the individual, causing debt.
No matter how much love that two people has for each other, it takes money to live a normal life, and lack of money creates conflict. Communication is vital when there are children involved. Failure to communicate can lead to behavioral problems in children. The healthiest relationships are the ones who are able to respect each other’s feelings and learn not to pressure one another. It takes two individual to build a successful relationship. Relationships or marriage would be a success if the communications towards each other were strong.
A strong and loving relationship is a source of great happiness in life. Unfortunately, a relationship that lacks communication can be a source of unhappiness. In addition, being in a relationship takes commitment, compromising and communication skills. Each individual has to share to each other their feelings and thoughts to know each other’s wants, and needs. Without shared understanding and lack of communication, the relationship results in failure. When in a relationship, each individual should not only be lovers, but also friends.
Relationships grow along with additional members, therefore, you have to engage in family activities and do household chores together. Everyone communicates with one another whether it is through face-to-face communication, sign language, or through mediated, communication. Being able to communicate with the right choice of words, and tone is what makes a person a great communicator. Effective communication helps other people to get to know who we are and what we need or want from the person we are communicating.
If we master communication, we would be able to communicate to the people we are close with without hurting their feelings or having our statements sound insulting. In a relationship, having effective communication between one another is extremely important in order for a healthy relationship to thrive. Without effective communication, the relationship would not have a strong base. When communicating effectively with loved ones, it is easier to overcome problems between each other. Effective communication also plays an important role between a parent and their children.
According to Deborah Tannen, “when sincere attempts to communicate end in stalemate, and beloved partner seems irrational and obstinate, the different languages men and women speak can shake the foundations of our lives” (298). In a relationship, communication is vital, and promoting effective communication in a relationship begins with the ability to listen. Listening is a skill, which requires that you practice often. Active listening is a process through which you are listening to another person and working with him or her to understand what he or she is saying.
According to Markman, Stanley and Blumberg, “when you are in the Listener role, be sincere in your effort to show you are listening carefully and respectfully. Even when you disagree with the point your partner is making, your goal is to show respect for and validation of his or her perspective” (113). In addition, another skill in communication is forgiveness. Forgiveness has shown to reduce emotional distress and aggression. Extending forgiveness to lovers, friends, and family can help restore damaged relationships.